Guys Group Facilitator

Hayne Steen, MA, LMHC
hayne@elbowtreeflorida.com

Group Details

TRIBE is designed to help men all over the country explore how to navigate their anger, fear and pain while exploring in community how to live fully from their whole heart.

If you say can YES to any of these questions, TRIBE might be a great place for you;
  • Is anger disrupting a relationship at home or at work?
  • Are you feeling particularly anxious or upset about the many issues related to global pandemic?
  • Has being quarantined exposed underlying emotions?
  • Do arguments escalate into yelling matches?
  • In conflict, do you ever resort to name calling?
  • Do others experience you as "controlling"?
  • Are you currently separated from your wife?
  • Do you struggle to regulate your emotional life?
  • Do others experience you as emotionally unaware?
  • Do you ever feel like a deer in headlights when you experience conflict?​ 
  • Do you ever struggle with making sense of what is going on inside?

When do we meet?
Saturday mornings from 8:00 am - 9:00 am.You can join the group anytime and your 10-week commitment begins the first week you decide to join us. 

Where do we meet?
TRIBE will be utilizing Zoom, which will securely accommodate a group our size (10 people max).
  
How much does it cost? The cost is $25 per week. There is an initial 10 week commitment required. Pay in full and get all 10 weeks for just $200!

How many spots are available? There are 10 seats available at any given time. A weekly commitment is expected until your goals for involvement in the group have been met. 

How do I get started? Email us and will be in touch with you soon to discuss your involvement in the group or you can email us at hayne@elbowtreeflorida.com.

Do you recommend any supplemental resources to help guys as they get started?

​(1) Listen to the ​​weekly podcast from my friends Chip Dodd and Stephen James who host Sage Hill Podcast.

(2) Read "The Voice of the Heart" book by Chip Dodd.

(3) Read "Wholeheartedness" book by Chuck DeGroat. 

(4) Read "The Whole Thing" by Jason English.

Why Group Therapy?
Group therapy is a powerful tool for growth and change. In process groups, 10+ individuals meet [online for now] to share their struggles and concerns with the facilitation of 1-2 trained therapists. The power of process groups lies in the unique opportunity to receive multiple perspectives, support, encouragement and feedback from other individuals in a safe ad confidential environment. These interpersonal interactions can provide group members an opportunity to deepen their level of self-awareness and to learn how they relate to others. Process groups are typically unstructured.

Why a Tribe?
EVERY GUY NEEDS A TRIBE!
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We are living in age when our children are described by some psychologists as being, “connected but alone.” Maybe you see this reality playing out in the life of a teenager you care about. A longing for connection but a penetrating insecurity or fear that they are unwanted and unknown. 

​There is nothing more painful than longing for meaningful connection when you feel so desperately isolated.

Did you know the most feared punishment for even the most hardened criminal is solitary confinement? In 2013, over 30,000 inmates at a maximum security prison in California went on a hunger strike in opposition to years and even decades of their state's harsh use of solitary confinement. 

Wired Magazine picked up the news in an article featured last year titled, The Horrible Psychology of Solitary Confinement. The article reads; 

"For 23 hours or more per day, in what’s euphemistically called “administrative segregation” or “special housing,” prisoners are kept in bathroom-sized cells, under fluorescent lights that never shut off. Video surveillance is constant. Social contact is restricted to rare glimpses of other prisoners. The human brain is ill-adapted to such conditions, and activists and some psychologists equate it to torture. Solitary confinement isn’t merely uncomfortable, they say, but such an anathema to human needs that it often drives prisoners mad. In isolation, people become anxious and angry, prone to hallucinations and wild mood swings, and unable to control their impulses. The problems are even worse in people predisposed to mental illness, and can wreak long-lasting changes in prisoners’ minds."

Two populations of our culture (prisons and nursing homes) punctuate the raw necessity of experiencing meaningful human connection. 

The bottom line? We were never meant to live live alone. 

All of creation announces this truth;
  • Birds have a flock.
  • Cows have a herd.
  • Fish have a school.
  • Dogs have a pack.
  • Dolphins have a pod.
  • Ants have a colony.
  • Apes have a troop.
  • Caterpillars have an army.

From the earliest moments of our origin, we have known our need for companionship. "God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him...a companion.” Genesis 2:18 (MSG)

TRIBE is an opportunity to companion in a new way. We hope you'll consider joining us or passing this along to someone you think might appreciate or benefit from a group like this. 

*Individual therapy with Hayne is available at normal rates.

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