Guys Group Facilitator

Hayne Steen, MA, LMHC
hayne@elbowtreeflorida.com

Group Details

TRIBE is designed to help men find a new way to navigate their own anger, fear and pain while exploring in community how to live more fully from their whole heart.

If you say can yes to any of these questions, TRIBE might be a great place for you.
  • Is anger disrupting a relationship at home or at work?
  • Do arguements escalate into yelling matches?
  • In conflict, do you ever resort to name calling?
  • Do others experience you as "controlling"?
  • Are you currently separated from your wife?
  • Do you struggle to regulate your emotional life?
  • Do others experience you as emotionally unaware?
  • Do you ever feel like a deer in headlights when you experience conflict?​ 
  • Do you ever struggle with making sense of what is going on inside?

When do we meet?
Every Tuesday evening from 7:30-9:00pm.

This group officially launches June 12th, 2018 and will meet every week this summer with exception to two dates; June 17 and June 26. You can join the group anytime and your 10 week commitment begins the first week you decide to join us. 

Where do we meet? Elbow Tree Christian Counseling
38 South Dixie Highway, Saint Augustine, Florida 32084. 

Where do we park? 
  • 1 space located on side of the Elbow Tree house
  • 2 spaces located directly behind the Elbow Tree house accessible from South Dixie Highway. 
  • 4+ spaces accessible from Eastman Street located directly behind the Elbow Tree house. Walk through entry point of fence behind The Back 40 toward our offices. 
  • Overflow parking available along the curb on Eastman. 
  • DO NOT park in The Back 40 Urban Cafe parking lot. 
 
How much does it cost? The cost is $35 per week. There is an initial 10 week commitment required. 

How many spots are available? There are 10 seats available at any given time. A weekly commitment is expected until your goals for involvement in the group have been met. 

How do I get started? Apply online and Hayne will be in touch with you within 48 hours to discuss the group. 

Do you recommend any resources to help guys as they get started? Yes! I highly recommend 3 key resources;

​(1) Begin listening to the ​​weekly podcast from my friends Chip Dodd and Stephen Hames at Sage Hill Institute. (2) Purchase and read "The Voice of the Heart" book by Chip Dodd. (3) Purchase and read "Wholeheartedness" book by Chuck DeGroat. 

Why Group Therapy?
Group therapy is a powerful tool for growth and change. In process groups, 10+ individuals meet face to face to share their struggles and concerns with the facilitation of 1-2 trained group therapists. The power of process groups lies in the unique opportunity to receive multiple perspectives, support, encouragement and feedback from other individuals in a safe ad confidential environment. These interpersonal interactions can provide group members an opportunity to deepen their level of self-awareness and to learn how they relate to others. Process groups are typically unstructured.

Why a Tribe?
EVERY GUY NEEDS A TRIBE!
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We are living in age when our children are described by some psychologists as being, “connected but alone.” Maybe you see this reality playing out in the life of a teenager you care about. A longing for connection but a penetrating insecurity or fear that they are unwanted and unknown. 

​There is nothing more painful than longing for meaningful connection when you feel so desperately isolated.

Did you know the most feared punishment for even the most hardened criminal is solitary confinement? In 2013, over 30,000 inmates at a maximum security prison in California went on a hunger strike in opposition to years and even decades of their state's harsh use of solitary confinement. 

Wired Magazine picked up the news in an article featured last year titled, The Horrible Psychology of Solitary Confinement. The article reads; 

"For 23 hours or more per day, in what’s euphemistically called “administrative segregation” or “special housing,” prisoners are kept in bathroom-sized cells, under fluorescent lights that never shut off. Video surveillance is constant. Social contact is restricted to rare glimpses of other prisoners. The human brain is ill-adapted to such conditions, and activists and some psychologists equate it to torture. Solitary confinement isn’t merely uncomfortable, they say, but such an anathema to human needs that it often drives prisoners mad. In isolation, people become anxious and angry, prone to hallucinations and wild mood swings, and unable to control their impulses. The problems are even worse in people predisposed to mental illness, and can wreak long-lasting changes in prisoners’ minds."

Two populations of our culture (prisons and nursing homes) punctuate the raw necessity of experiencing meaningful human connection. 

The bottom line? We were never meant to live live alone. 

All of creation announces this truth;
  • Birds have a flock.
  • Cows have a herd.
  • Fish have a school.
  • Dogs have a pack.
  • Dolphins have a pod.
  • Ants have a colony.
  • Apes have a troop.
  • Caterpillars have an army.

From the earliest moments of our origin, we have known our need for companionship. "God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him...a companion.” Genesis 2:18 (MSG)

TRIBE is an opportunity to companion in a new way. We hope you'll consider joining us or passing this along to someone you think might appreciate or benefit from a group like this. 

*Individual therapy with Hayne is available at normal rates.

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